Do you dream of being an exceptional author? Have you ever sat down to write your book only to find yourself paralyzed by fears that you are not an exceptional author. Has this led to fears that your writing isn’t good enough, your concept not engaging enough or your writing ability not great enough to achieve this feat?

Most of us experience doubts about our ability now and again, but if this fear comes up again and again, it can be crippling and it can stop you from achieving almost anything – including writing a book.

ExceptionalYesterday, I got an email from Steve Chandler about the problems he encountered because he was trying to be exceptional every time he did something. It made me think.

Too often we start a treasured project or important task only to find ourselves stalling soon after and it’s all down to our desire to be exceptional every time we do something. This is despite the fact that it is often when we are not focused on being brilliant that we most often are brilliant.

We are especially susceptible to this when we start doing something that is important to us, like writing a book.

So, what can you do when the desire to be exceptional strikes?

In short: get comfortable being average. What Steve Chandler learnt was to get comfortable being average. What he found what that if he was able to accept being ‘okay’ he could do a great deal more and eventually improve and develop as he wanted.

On this basis, if being exceptional stops you doing anything at all, then accepting yourself just being average could move you forward very fast indeed. By letting go of the dream of being an exceptional author, you may achieve your goal of becoming an author, which you may not if you hang on to the desire to be exceptional.

Of course, your work is just one arena where you can counteract the stultifying desire to be exceptional and get more done. But if it moves you forward in your work it could also do wonders in other areas of your life as well.

What do you think? Have you ever found yourself stuck because you aren’t living up to your own standards? If so, what did you do about it?

Deborah Taylor
Deborah Taylor

Hi, I'm Deborah Taylor and I'm a publishing consultant and book-writing mentor. I work with established business owners who want to share their message by writing a book but are struggling to get started (or finished). I help them write, publish and launch a stand-out, attention-grabbing book that will raise their profile, reach more of their ideal clients and grow their business. I am a trained editor with over 15 years' publishing experience with major blue-chip UK publishing companies such as Hodder & Stoughton, BBC Books, Cassell and Pearson. I have produced books on every subject under the sun and with professinals and experts from a wide range of professions, from chefs and gardeners to life coaches and career consultants. I would love to help you write a book you love and that will raise your profile, attract new clients and bring you exciting new business opportunities.